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Underwear, outfits, gifts and flags
Pride flags and their meanings: every flag explained
The rainbow flag, the Progress flag, the gay men’s flag and more: what each one stands for and where it came from.
Read the guideThe jockstrap guide: how to wear one, and why guys love them
How a jockstrap should fit, the styles to choose from, and how to wear one with confidence.
Read the guideMen’s underwear styles explained: jockstraps, briefs, thongs and more
From barely-there thongs to comfy boxers: what each style does, how it should fit and when to wear it.
Read the guideHow to wear a harness: chest, shoulder and full-body styles
Chest, shoulder or full body: how to pick a harness, get the fit right and build a look around it.
Read the guideWhat to wear to Pride: outfit ideas for gay guys
From a simple rainbow tee to a full harness look: Pride outfit ideas, and what to bring for a long day out.
Read the guideGift ideas for gay men: pride gifts he’ll actually use
Birthdays, anniversaries, Pride or the holidays: gifts for gay guys that are fun to open and actually get used.
Read the guideThe bear and leather pride flags: history and meaning
Two flags you’ll spot at every Pride: where the bear and leather flags came from and what they stand for.
Read the guideHow to measure your underwear size (jockstraps, briefs and boxers)
Two measurements, one tape and five minutes: how to find your size in every style, and what to do when you’re between sizes.
Read the guideWhere to buy gay men’s underwear online: 10 stores compared
We checked prices, sizes, shipping and returns at nine underwear stores on 7 October 2026, plus our own, so you can find the right jock without the guesswork.
Read the guideGay slang explained: bears, otters, twinks, daddies and more
The words gay men use for body types and scenes, from bears and otters to twinks and daddies, with where they came from and how to use them kindly.
Read the guideWhere to buy pride flags: 3x5 prices compared
We compared 3x5 ft rainbow and Progress flags on 7 October 2026, from $6 printed polyester to $147 hand-sewn, so you know what you’re paying for.
Read the guideGay Halloween costume ideas for guys
Easy, sexy or all-out: Halloween costume ideas for gay guys, built from things you’ll actually wear again.
Read the guideToys, lube, douching and play
How to douche: an anal douching guide for gay guys
Clean, relaxed and ready: a step-by-step guide to douching before sex, without the stress or the irritation.
Read the guideProstate play for beginners: how to find your P-spot
Where your P-spot is, how to find it, and how to get the most out of a prostate massager.
Read the guideHow to choose a dildo: size, material and shape
Length, width, material and features: how to pick a dildo you’ll love, whether it’s your first or your fiftieth.
Read the guideHow to use a cock ring safely (and why you’ll want to)
Harder, longer and bigger: what a cock ring does, how to put one on and how to wear it safely.
Read the guideHow to use a penis pump safely: a step-by-step guide
What a pump really does, how to use one without bruising, and the rules that keep it fun.
Read the guideHow to use a male masturbator (and keep it clean)
Strokers, sleeves and automatic cups: the right lube, the right way to clean them, and how to make one last.
Read the guideNipple play for beginners: clamps, suction and how long to wear them
A little bite goes a long way: how to start with nipple clamps and keep it hot, not harmful.
Read the guideBondage for beginners: cuffs, restraints and how to stay safe
Being tied down (or doing the tying) is hot. Here’s how to start, what to buy first, and the few rules that keep it that way.
Read the guideDildo size guide: what size dildo should you get?
Bigger isn’t always better. Here’s how dildo sizes compare to the real thing, and how to pick the one you’ll actually enjoy.
Read the guideHow to clean sex toys (and store them properly)
Silicone, glass, steel, jelly or electric: how to clean each one properly and store it so it lasts.
Read the guideButt plugs for beginners: sizes, shapes and how to use one
Your first plug, your next size up or a jewelled one for the bedroom: how to choose it, get it in and enjoy it.
Read the guideThe lube guide: water-based vs silicone lube, and when to use each
Water-based, silicone or flavoured: which lube to use for anal, toys and condoms, and how much you actually need.
Read the guideChastity cages: a beginner’s guide to getting locked up
Denial, control and a whole lot of anticipation: how to choose a cock cage, fit it and wear it safely.
Read the guideThe best sex toys for gay beginners: a starter kit that won’t scare you
Seven beginner-friendly toys and the three essentials that make them easy, with what to buy first and how to use each one.
Read the guideWhere to buy sex toys discreetly: 11 online stores compared
We checked the packaging, billing names, returns and prices at 11 online stores on 7 October 2026, Gays+ included, so you can pick the one that fits your life.
Read the guideThe hanky code: what every colour means, and which pocket
Navy, red, black, yellow and more: what each colour means, why the pocket matters, and the history of gay men’s most famous secret signal.
Read the guideHow to bottom for the first time: a gentle guide
Nervous is normal. How to prepare, warm up and take it slow, so your first time bottoming feels good.
Read the guideHow to use a dildo: a step-by-step guide for guys
Choose the right size, warm up properly and find the angle that hits the spot, then clean up the easy way.
Read the guidePuppy play for beginners: a guide to pup play
What pup play is, pups and handlers, how to find your headspace, and the gear to start with.
Read the guideGrowing an audience and advertising to gay men
How to promote your OnlyFans on X as a gay creator
What to post, how often, which settings matter, and how to tell whether promotion is actually bringing you subscribers.
Read the guideHow to advertise to gay men online
Where gay men actually see brands, what targeting you can still use, and how to tell what’s working.
Read the guideRanked by what customers buy
18+ The 10 best sex toys for gay men
These are the toys gay guys actually buy from us, most popular first, with their real ratings. If you’re new, start with something small and body-safe, plus plenty of water-based lube.
See the list18+ The 10 best dildos for men
Our most popular dildos, ranked by what customers buy and backed by their real reviews. Realistic, dual-density silicone with a suction cup is the classic choice; size up only when you’re ready.
See the list18+ The 10 best prostate massagers
The prostate massagers our customers buy most, with their real ratings. A curved tip, a flared base and a vibration you can control make the biggest difference.
See the list18+ The 10 best male masturbators
The strokers and masturbators customers buy most, with their real ratings. Manual sleeves give you total control; automatic ones add suction, thrusting or vibration.
See the list18+ The 10 best cock rings
The cock rings customers buy most, with their real ratings. Start with something stretchy and adjustable; save steel for when you know your size.
See the list18+ The 10 best butt plugs
The butt plugs and beads customers buy most, with their real ratings. A training set lets you start small and size up at your own pace.
See the list18+ The 10 best vibrators for men
The vibrators customers buy most, with their real ratings. For anal play, look for a flared base; for everything else, a bullet or wand gives the most control.
See the list18+ The 9 best anal douches
The douches customers buy most, with their real ratings. Bulbs are simple and travel well; electric douches give a steady, gentle flow with no squeezing.
See the listThe 10 best jockstraps
The jockstraps customers buy most, with their real ratings. Check the size guide on each product: a good jock fits snug in the pouch with straps that don’t dig.
See the listThe 10 best gay underwear
The underwear customers buy most, across every style, with their real ratings. Not sure which style suits you? Our guide to men’s underwear styles explains each one.
See the listThe 10 best pride shirts
The pride shirts and tanks customers buy most, with their real ratings. For a parade, order two to three weeks ahead and check the delivery estimate on each product page.
See the listThe 10 best pride flags
The flags customers buy most, with their real ratings. Our flag meanings guide explains what each design stands for.
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