How to choose a dildo: size, material and shape

Tip: Not sure how big to go? See the dildo size guide, with a size chart and average sizes from medical studies.

With so many shapes and sizes, picking a dildo can be overwhelming. Here’s what actually matters.

Size: width matters more than length

Check the insertable length and the width (or diameter) in each product’s details. Width decides how comfortable a toy feels far more than length does. For a first dildo, around 6 to 7 inches long and about 1.25 to 1.5 inches wide is a comfortable start.

Material

• Silicone: non-porous, body-safe, long-lasting and easy to clean. Use water-based lube.
• Jelly and TPE: softer and cheaper, but porous, so clean and dry them carefully.
• Glass and stainless steel: firm, smooth and great for temperature play. Any lube works.

Features worth knowing

• Suction cup: sticks to walls, floors and shower tiles for hands-free riding.
• Dual density: a firm core with a soft, skin-like outside that feels more real.
• Realistic details: veins, balls and foreskin for the look and feel of the real thing.
• Vibrating, thrusting, warming and squirting: for when you want the toy to do the work.

Looking after it

Wash your dildo with warm water and mild soap (or toy cleaner) before and after use, dry it fully and store it in a pouch away from other toys.

Tip: Going bigger over time? Size up gradually and always warm up first with fingers or a smaller toy.