Anal training for beginners: how to use a butt plug training kit

Anal training is just practice: wearing gradually bigger plugs so the muscles around your hole learn to relax and stretch comfortably. It is how a lot of guys go from nervous to confident bottoms, and how size queens work up to bigger toys. Done slowly, it is safe and feels good.

What you need

• A training set of three or more plugs in increasing sizes, or a few single plugs in the sizes you need.
• A flared base on every plug. This is not optional.
• Plenty of water-based lube.
• Time to relax: a warm shower first helps.

Our silicone butt plug training kit is the classic start. For a softer wear, try the clear wearable plug, which comes in five sizes from XXS.

A simple training plan

• Week 1: the smallest plug for 10–15 minutes, every other day. Breathe out and gently push out as it goes in.
• Week 2: wear it for longer, up to 30–60 minutes, doing normal things around the house.
• When the small plug feels like nothing, move up one size and start again with short sessions.
• Rest a day or two between sessions, and never skip a size.

How it should feel

Expect fullness and pressure at first, and sometimes the feeling that you need to go. That fades as you relax. Sharp pain, burning or bleeding are signs to stop and rest. Width matters far more than length, so compare the widest point of each plug when you size up. Our butt plug guide explains shapes and sizes in more detail.

Make it part of foreplay

A plug worn for half an hour before sex is the best warm-up there is. Many bottoms also wear a small one while getting ready to go out, and a prostate-shaped plug adds pressure right where it counts.

Tip: Douching is optional for plug play, but if you like to feel fresh, rinse gently with plain lukewarm water. Our douching guide shows how.